okay, I've been putting this off for a little while, but I've been tagged by Reeti, and i like this tag, and therefore i shall do it! because it's MY blog, and i can. so ha-ha!
the reason I've been avoiding writing this is that my first day at Jadavpur was not what i would have liked for it to have been at all, not even close. and i wish i could say that without offending people who probably won't even read this.
i remember a lot of the same things as everyone else :rain and mudsquelchy JU, filling in the fee-book (at which point someone at the table lost her head completely, and said: "ekhane ki school-er naam likhbo?"!) on the day of the admission,
and PB's aquaguard and vampires, Mandy's very colourful skirt, and somebody beside me crying her eyes out (and when i asked, the girl next to her told me that she couldn't believe she actually got into JU!)
yes, i was just a leetle freaked! but i was insanely happy because i really liked the place.
but my initial experience at JU was rather different, more difficult than for those who already knew other people in class. everything i did, was a sort of experiment.
making new friends was not incidental, it was more of a conscious decision.
like steering clear of the people i hung around with on the first day, almost immediately after they asked where i was taking tuitions from.
my first day at Jadavpur was a disappointment.
and eventually i made the change (at the cost of sounding bitchy and inconsiderate: i ditched some people, and I'm sorry), and I'm glad i did.
thankew (yes yoo, and yoo, and yoo etc.) for making the Joo so much better for me :)
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'I will look at cliffs and clouds
With quiet eyes,
Watch the wind bow down the grass,
And the grass rise.
And when lights begin to show,
Up from the town,
I will mark which must be mine,
And then start down...'
With quiet eyes,
Watch the wind bow down the grass,
And the grass rise.
And when lights begin to show,
Up from the town,
I will mark which must be mine,
And then start down...'
32 comments:
pleasure, dearie.
And, it was either ditching the people you originally hung out with or going insane, I think. So, yeah, fail to see how you did anything wrong.
Who cried?I cant believe someone actually cried!:P
Yes, who cried?
I think we'd all like to know that!
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Cheers,
ohmygod, now he's here as well?
Someone asked you if you took tuitions? :P
job hopping...channel surfing...discarding that maroon sweater for a green one...and oh! yes! jumping from one friends' group to another...
it's all about 'greener pastures'...right???
but the world is round, dear....the world is ROUND.
dittos to wat shayeari said...
i mean, how cruel can you get?
@shayeari and malini
you wouldn't believe how much these comments have upset me, because no matter what changes i've made, i've always respected you as individuals.
i just want to say that i made the change because i realised i had much more in common with these new friends, and i do believe i saved all of us a lot of bitterness by making a decision rather than just staying for the sake of it.
i have made a sincere effort to save us all as much trouble in the process as i possibly could.
i fail to see where all this resentment is coming from, because not once in my post, directly or indirectly have i referred to either of you.and i do believe i left before there was time to form any emotional attachment.
shayeari, if you choose to call it 'greener pastures', then i'll agree with you, i do enjoy their company, it's given me a sense of belonging.
and if there have been any hurt feelings, i apologise. being 'cruel' was not my intention at all.
no matter who i spent time with, i've never stopped considering you my friends.
you were a group when i met you, and you were a group when i left, for all i know, i didn't change a thing.
note: if anyone finds this post offensive, please drop me a line, i'll delete it.
i find this post offensive.....its too gay...
p.s.
CAT FIGHT WOOHOO !!!!
@shayaeri n malini
get a fuckin life you two! yes it always is about greener pastures; provided you couldnt figure this out yerself all this time despite neeli declaring herself to be a cow is dum of YOU. so sort yerself out and take on people who're bastards enough to match up to yer bitchy fireballs. stop pickin on nice people.
i can now easily imagine why she *changed* friends. she needed it else she'd have been like you lot. and what a disaster that'd have been.
Well said, Joe!
Shayeari and Malini, go pick on someone else. If Neeli didn't like your company, that's that. Please don't crib like a 2 year old and say, "How cruel can you get?" It just makes you sound rather inspid.
Neeli's decision to move from your group to our group made sense to her, made her happier- accept that, and quit bitching, yeah?
w00t, Look mom, I'm part of a reality show. Catfights, Bitching, people rushing to defend, offense....Fuck You MTV, We rule. Wakaka
whaay, we're stars!!!
shayeari and malini,
please back off, okay? thanks. it's ridiculous, all this how cruel can you get. Please. just, leave it be. Also, I have question, did you not guess that she wasn't comfortable around you when she, i dunno, stopped hanging out with you that much? It's a genuine question. I'm not being sarcastic. Just very curious.
come on rhea! it took them so many years to realise that the world was round. they need some more time to realise that neeli stopped hanging out with em cuz she didnt enjoy their company.
give em like, a couple more lives and maybe {MAYBE} theyll come back and let us know if they've realised or not
Thanks for doing the tag...I had no idea that this blogpost would turn into a warzone
I am actually quite upset after reading this.I've always thought that as a class,we've respected one another...name calling and mudslinging is absolutely uncalled for.
I think we should all try and be a bit more mature about this.It's already gotten very heated up.
and far as "friends groups" go,no matter who you hang out with,I didn't think that "friends' groups" were exclusive things.Just because you spend more time with a bunch of people doesn't mean you do so because you consider them to be "greener pastures"or whatever.
College is different from school.And it takes a while to settle down.You meet a bunch of new people and you begin to start knowing them and interacting with them.
It has nothing to do with being "cruel"or flippant or whatever.
It is just about making choices.
here comes the spoiler! :P we were gearing up for a fight and you pour cold water over it. why?
haha!
terrible.
Reeti has apoint. Admit it. And even in school, by the time we were doing our +2's, most of the water-tight groups had disappeared. But, Reeti, if some people don't get that, they're bound to make us react like middle-school kids. Can't be helped.
for all you oh-so-matured-individuals, it wouldn't really matter if one fine morning a person who u considered a friend, were to leave her bag at your bench and creep over to the other side of the classroom and suddenly whisper -er! plz pass my bag!
and i am not ready to believe that there was a dearth of place at my end, coz after she 'left', i found myself the sole occupant of that bench. ofcourse! really immatured of me to point this out on your face..cat-fight is it?? call it wat you may, but what hurts, hurts, and we were being blatantly honest. nilanjana, the saddest part is not that you never gelled well with us, but that, you really made us feel that you did!
for all you people out here who would call us wat you will, remember, a plastic smile always remains just that, a plastic smile. it doesnt wear off with age.
as for us, if you people are losing your sleep over the thought that we do not have a life,pop some sleeping pills...we are perfectly in peace.
thank you.
achha sorry to interrupt this oh-so-emotional tearjerker moment...but wasnt the earth geoid ?? it aint round...its an oblate spheroid or something like that....let the cat fight continue !!!!!!!!!!
*takes a bow for setting the mood again*
achha whats the need to fight and all in this?lets have cheesecake everyone!
@The Racoon Lord, Yes it is...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Figure_of_the_Earth
And now, please continue. I was missing school...
i don't know why you're doing this to me.
if you were so bitter about this, then you should really have had a conversation with me.
i never said i did not gel well with you, only that i got along better with them, this had absolutely nothing to do with you.
but please tell me if there's a 'right' way of going about this. how else was i to let you know?
i wouldn't think saying 'listen, i'm 'jumping' groups', would be the right thing to do. so i just distanced myself without much fuss.
i thought it was the best way to go about it.
and please, please understand that i wasn't faking anything.that's just the sort of person i am, i only tried to make things work, and when i realised they wouldn't, i moved on.
@ ze loony buns,
ooff! aar parchhi na, tora shob pagol!
except reeti, who's all sensible :)
and, shreya,
cheesecake!! yuss :)
@shayaeri
by writing long replies to a blogpost if yeh think youve proved to us you've got a life, then think again. if yeh have one, then go live it and stop bugging people. shit happens in life, people become friends, then they go away - DEAL with it. instead of posting out little cat call like sarcastic comments and complaining, just DEAL with it. she went, so...big deal! Boohoo!!!
This is like some kind of Eminem song. :P
then it serves its purpose in that case eh messiah! whippee, now me is Slim Shady, so im gonna now stand up!
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